In the process of writing my article tonight, I came across this quote: “You Deserve What You Settle For”. I know there is a very similar quote from Maureen Dowd, but this one just caught my eye. I had to go write a blog entry about it haha. This is just so true. If you don’t put the effort into your health, you won’t be healthy. If you make bad decisions, you’re bound to get bad results. Everything you do in life has a following impact that can either improve yourself or set you back. Whatever you do is a choice. You can commit to being fit, being faithful in your relationship, eating the right foods, or you can sit on your ass…cheat on people you love, and eat food that kills you. Everything has a choice and you can either settle for whoever you are today, or you can make a change to be better.
Be Better.
Why waste time being someone you are not proud of. Everything takes a small step. Then a few more, then you are on your way in the right direction. I myself am no poster child for doing the right thing. I actually have done everything the wrong way and that is no exaggeration. I have made conscious and unconscious decisions in my life that have set me back more than you can imagine. I have rebelled against doing the right thing most my life.
The only thing I have maintained at a steady pace through everything is my love for others and love for improving myself. I am a thinker and a dreamer and a caring person. The people I have in my life mean more to me then anything. I have passion towards helping them because I know how it feels to feel everything. The pain, the loss, the mistakes…. I grew up in an abusive childhood but got away from it, I went through childhood depression as well as bouts of anorexia and bulimia. Most of this was caused from a rough childhood and not having an escape but today that is nothing. It is the past. I am grateful that I am alive today and happy. I can relate with so many people because I have been through so much.…but one thing I did do was MOVE ON.
I have had many bad relationships. But I learn that the only emotions you can control are your own. Why settle in a bad relationship if it doesn’t improve yourself? Why have friends that are hurtful or disrespectful? Why sit around watching television when you should be creating a life that is so wonderful and fulfilling that you forget the concept of TV?
Get outside of your excuses. Go for a run. Do something you’ve never done before. You deserve what you settle for…..SO SETTLE FOR MORE. 
Awesome idea and post… love it.
By: coachcrystalspadawan on July 29, 2012
at 7:50 pm
thank you I’m grad you liked it! Its very true we often forget that we don’t have to put up with a lifestyle we’re unhappy with:)
By: Tiare Vincent on July 29, 2012
at 7:53 pm
I love this post! I never thought of it exactly like that, but you’re so right! You look to be about my age too, so I can relate to a lot of this. I’m sure I’ll get a lot of inspiration from your blog
By: racheloc16 on July 29, 2012
at 8:43 pm
I’m glad you liked it!! and thanks for following my blog i just did the same to yours! I honestly just came across that quote tonight and had to share it because it really is so true. A lot of what we are unhappy with really has to do with what we LET happen. anyway i hope more of my entries will inspire you also! have a great night!
By: Tiare Vincent on July 29, 2012
at 8:45 pm
SO true. Thanks for the inspiration!! Seth Godin is awesome too, have you been his book, “Tribes”? Cool Idea there. He also has a Ted Talk about Tribes, I recommend checking it out.
By: aura jade on July 29, 2012
at 9:29 pm
after you wrote this i looked it up and i must buy it! I’ve read one of his other books and he is great. very inspirational! thank you for the comment!
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:27 pm
Hi Tiare! I am thrilled to find your blog, it’s wonderful to share motivation and inspiration with like minded people. I saw that you are writing an article for a magazine- congratulations! That is really awesome and I hope you share it here too. I’m injured right now and have been feeling a bit out of sorts since I can’t work out- literally, broke bones in my back surfing so I’m bed ridden- your positive attitude brightened my day and reminded me of the opportunities that have come from this, like writing more and appreciating my body and what it can do. I’ll be following! -Amelia
By: stokedyogi on July 29, 2012
at 10:35 pm
thank you!!! I’m so glad that i could help inspire you!! and yes i will most definitely put up my article once its published sometime at the end of next month! i am sooooooo sorry about your back! something like that would drive me insane not being about to do anything:( i hope you recover quickly but yes at least you have time to write and appreciate everything you have and that you WILL be okay:) i hope you come back soon!
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:29 pm
Nice post and you deserve thanks for all your readers.. you have done fabulous job for them and me also…
By: Nitin Vaghela on July 29, 2012
at 10:53 pm
awww i appreciate that thank you!
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:29 pm
This post reminded me of this quote: “The minute you settle for less than what you deserve, you get even less than what you settled for”. As always, I enjoyed this post. Besides I didn’t know you had a not-so harmonic childhood! I am a fan of those who strive through bad circumstances. Inspiring stuff
By: Erika on July 29, 2012
at 11:43 pm
yes that was the quote i was referring to from Maureen Dowd when i was saying how i heard this similar quote!:) but thank you for the comment. yes i embrace the struggles I’ve been through because it brought me to who i am today…which is very strong:)
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:31 pm
I like the way you think.
By: lizforaday on July 30, 2012
at 11:51 am
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:31 pm
Very true. Great post.
By: destinymgmt on July 30, 2012
at 12:09 pm
thank you!!
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:31 pm
Appreciate your thoughts on this topic. I especially lke: “but one thing I did do was MOVE ON.” This can often be difficult to do.
By: Giovanni on July 30, 2012
at 2:45 pm
its very difficult! but it creates strength! we must move on! otherwise we waste precious life on things we cannot control
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:32 pm
Awesome post! Your honesty is much appreciated and it’s what makes your post a genuine one. I could specifically relate to ” I have made conscious and unconscious decisions in my life that have set me back more than you can imagine. I have rebelled against doing the right thing most my life.” I guess I’m not alone after all
By: Springnation on July 30, 2012
at 8:36 pm
yes we need to be honest because so many others share similar problems and we can truly relate when we find like-minded others. thanks for your comment i appreciate it from a fellow rebel;) haha
By: Tiare Vincent on July 30, 2012
at 11:33 pm
You are so right! What a great reminder the we are navigators of our lives.
By: runnergurrl on May 8, 2013
at 2:21 pm