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Have I mentioned how freaking happy I’ve been lately? If you follow me on Instagram, this may already have been apparent to you. I am a smile-ear-to-ear grateful for everything these days person. I wish I could put this into a how-to manual for the negative-energy-sucking-non-aware people.

Does anyone know my story?
Does anyone know what I’m about to go through?
Probably not.

I have 3 DUI’s…..I am 9 months sober today and grateful for my life. I have trial in a week and a half and am looking at about 4 months in jail minimum…..with a miracle, it could be less but that is what I am looking at. I figured you all should know in case I drop off the face of the internet for a bit hehe. I could cry about my future and play the victim card a while longer but what the hell would that do for me?

In my entire unhealthy drinking/living career, I am grateful that I managed to get out from all of this without hurting myself or another. Today I get to be alive. People ask why I run so much, why I’m always in the mountains, why I do so much yoga and why am I never able to relax?
Well now you know…what’s the point of living if you can’t enjoy it? Imagine you’re going to jail in a few weeks…what would you do today?
What would you do tomorrow?

Imagine if you looked into your future and didn’t see the freedom that you have today…
WHAT WOULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY?

Now imagine you’re not like me and don’t have to go to jail.
Look at how you live your life and think to yourself…why am I not living a more free, fulfilling life?
Why am I living in this small boring box, going to work feeling shitty about how much I hate my job, how much this hangover hurts, why do I stay with a lover who doesn’t connect with me?

Why do I allow myself to play small?
Why don’t I truly embrace my life?

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I’m reading this amazing book by Danielle LaPorte called The Desire Map. It talks about rather than create a goal list, a bucket list, a 1, 5 and 10 year plan, why not create a Desire List?
Sometimes we make lofty goals and sometimes life happens and changes us from ever getting to some of those goals….we feel sorry for ourselves and we sometimes forget our lists all together. She comes at goal setting from a whole different angle in which she says create a desire list.
HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL?…..in your ideal life I’m asking you this now…how do you want to FEEL?

Here is my list for the current time:

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Now she says stick that somewhere and look at it everyday, add to it, start over, get creative with it. Now look at that list, and really dissect the list…think of things that make you feel those feelings….

Now do something everyday that makes you feel some of those feelings…now do them every day. Soon enough the things you do everyday that make you feel those ideal feelings end up shaping the path to your ideal life.

On an end note, nothing makes me happier than doing the best I can with what I have. Enjoying the people I have in my life. Enjoying the freedom I have today, and when I face my hardest times, I will treat is as a meditation, a life lesson, to help others see the greatness in their life while they can. We think our lives can be so hard sometimes even when nothing really is that hard…..remember that life is about perspective and why waste it by looking at the negative side of everything.

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Holy molyyyy did I die? Did I forget I have this lovely blog I’ve been trying to maintain over the last two years? Did I think I had better things to do? Did I have soooo much fun that I just simply didn’t have time to write about it?
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I didn’t.
I’ve been lazy about writing. I sometimes feel that I have nothing worthy of writing about. I have been doing the same thing day in and day out these days.
That’s also a lie! The last two weeks I’ve been teaching at my local studio. I’ve been trying to run at least 4 times a week and a couple days ago it was 72 DEGREES here in WASHINGTON STATE. My dad and I took advantage of it and took the paddleboards out! A week ago I also hiked up into the snowy mountains to find these ice caves only to be disappointed that the avalanches covered them….so if you wonder “Where has Tiare been?” that’s where I’ve been.

Every day I want to change the name of my blog. I recent got asked to be interviewed for another blog and I was really happy she had asked me! That will be out on Monday and I’ll link you to her site but when I was looking over the several other interviews she did, it was a lot of pro-fitness models and just ripped-beyond-belief chicks! They are gorgeous and have crazy bodies…..and I read about their training and meal prep and ohhhh I’m already exhausted.

I understand that it’s great to be healthy. I know it’s also the latest craze for women to “lift heavy” and meal prep till you turn into a robot. I get that that is all great…..but I also feel that it’s great to do different things everyday. I think it’s great to TASTE the food you eat and have some fucking ice cream if you want some fucking ice cream.

What is a life if all you care about is making big muscles and having the best rock hard ass? I think it’s great….but in order to keep it up you must really commit to doing that for LIFE….or it all goes back to fat in a snap. I’m being a shitty fitness inspiration right now.

I just believe that we need to all see ourselves as beautiful the way we are….and we need to eat a variety of food that nourishes our body. We need to wake up every morning feeling happy we’re even alive. We need to drink lots of water, have lots of fun with our loved ones and sweat once a day! I mean run, yoga, sex, bike, hike, lift, swim….whatever….but don’t be soooo boring about it. I see people updating their facebook and it goes like this:

“ohhhh leg day-my favorite day”
“its arms and shoulders…;) just to let you know”
“its leg day again…”
“oh no its meal prep day….i hate it but it needs to get done”

and so on….. they do this same little cycle week after week and I wonder deep down if they even enjoy their life. Has it become one big robotic need to look a certain way yet not FEEL anything??? Okay I’ve gone overboard and being super one-sided. I think It’s important to weight train and it’s great for any activity you do…but this blog entry is just aimed at people who ONLY lift and don’t do anything else.

We only have one life……..go on more adventures, be creative with your meal plans, and be happy in the process of taking care of your body.

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I don’t know why I took so long to write an update about my Florida vacation. Maybe it’s that I haven’t accepted coming back home to Washington yet…I have been a little under the weather ever since I got home from Fort Lauderdale and have of me thinks it’s mental sadness of leaving. It was my third time visiting my friend Dianna since she moved there. We’ve been best friends since I was 19. We used to be with each other every single day and having her so far away is really hard for me sometimes.

A couple weeks prior to my vacation I was talking to her about how I missed the sun, I missed the beach, I missed her….then she sort of just said “Well you should be here then”…and I said you’re right I should…and so I did. Best 4 day vacation in a long time. I told her all I wanted was to run, do yoga and be on the beach and see her family and pugs. That is exactly what happened. We took full advantage and I have a bunch of pictures. We went swimming, had green juice, went paddle boarding, went running, had dinner at her fam’s house and talked a lot about life and our dreams.

I am from Hawaii originally-that’s where I was born. I grew up in Kaaawa on Oahu and our house was literally right on a road that separated us from the ocean. Right behind our house was the mountains. Every single day of my little childhood was spent on the beach swimming or burying myself in the sand, or climbing the mountains. When I wasn’t doing that, i was catching chameleons and calling them my pets. I have four little brothers and grew up lifting every single rock or brick around the house or neighborhood to find new bugs and were completely fascinated. In the younger part of my life, my main dream was to become an entomologist-a person who studies bugs. Of all dreams to have, I wanted to study bugs haha.

I loved animals and bugs, I loved the ocean and nature, I loved my family and was always incredibly close with my brothers and I had great compassion for everything that is life.

I still am that person.

I still see myself when I visit places like home, or Florida.

I still see the glow in my heart when I am on the beach( not just to tan but the glow of smelling the ocean and feeling the sun on my body).

I still see my compassion for other people in my life and in my family.

I still see that compassion when I spend time with Dianna’s family and I treat them as my own.(I realize in life I do this with most people).

I still see my love for nature when seeing lizards race back and forth in front of me on my runs. I live in fascination most days of my life.

It’s hard to come home this time of year. I accept it and I love the Pacific Northwest, but I sometimes have these needs for what I remember….which is living in tropical weather and the ability to really get outside everyday. I find myself latching to the hot yoga rooms here in Seattle like I’m some sort of lizard outside of its natural habitat.

I realize I am not the average female, I yearn to always be fully connected and I yearn to be outside most the time. Coming back home I am grateful, but I know in my heart I have big things ahead in my future….If i let go my fear to being greater than I am today:) Here is a bunch of Florida pics to come. Namaste.

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Something I’ve never really been good about is showing weakness. My perfectionistic obsessiveness always brought me to a place of pushing to be perfect when I really just needed to relax…

 

Sometimes in life we need to take it easy. Anything we push in life surely will go away in one way or another. In my case, its battling this tendonitis. It started a year ago in my left wrist. I was jumping into handstands, crow, anything upside down. I still do these things but at that point in my life I was aggressively pushing the pain out of my mind and thinking it would go away in time. I am 27 years old and to this day (knock on wood) I’ve never broken a bone, I’ve never sprained anything and really never been hurt. Anything I have ever done has served me well and anything that hurts always went away. Time sure has changed, because I’m starting to really feel pain if I work too hard in one form of exercise…I wake up in back/shoulder pain once and awhile and realize I am no longer invincible like my ego thought I was.

 

My tendonitis got worse….I went to teacher training and spent the whole training working against myself with this wrist problem. When I got home from training, it got so bad that I finally went to a hand therapist. I didn’t feel things were really helping since It was just in a brace for months so I took up acupuncture. I also felt that that only helped lesson the pain for a short while. Keep in mind through all this I was still getting upside down on my mat and not modifying for shit.

 

Finally we tried natural injections and within a month, everything was gone. Woohooooo. It’s been about 4 or 5 months now with a good wrist.

 

Now my tendonitis is back and it’s in my shoulder, around my rotator cuff and down my upper arm. I couldn’t sleep for days and it felt like constant aching. I went to my chiropractor and acupuncture doc again and we are working through this.

 

I am also doing a 30 day yoga challenge this month.

ohhhhh the power of an addictive crazy person. Things are different now though…I have been to 6 classes in the last 5 days and have mixed in Bikram, Yin and in my normal power classes, I’m dropping my knees in chatarunga and not getting upside down. As much as I have mini panic attacks when I’m holding a chair pose prayer twist and the teacher says we can jump into side-crow if that’s in our practice, I stay still…I know now that my ego has brought me injury, and my ego will continue to try to give me injury but only if i let it.

So I learn to let go…

Quiet the ego down that tells me I will not be a good teacher if I cant do EVERYTHING.

It’s so important to be aware of how we treat our bodies and we have to mentally check in with our intentions. In my case, I had the intention of looking good. I came to my mat to prove to everyone in the room that I could follow all the teachers orders in grace. But that’s pure bullshit now isn’t it? No one gives a flying care what you do on your mat. They also don’t care what you do in your life. Everything is all up in our heads to try and wear this special mask when we are all not that special.

When we injure ourselves and continue to ignore what our bodies are trying to tell us, which is to relax and lay off a little, we cause further pain.

 

We need to use yoga to free our ego. Become whole. Become quiet. We come together to share the energy of breathing and moving and living…but coming to yoga to show off your damn gymnastics skills, especially on injury will only burn you out. This month I’m learning to be gentle with my body and mind….because I want this mind and body to last longer than my shitty ego sometimes:)

 

So create space. let it go….let go the need to be so much more than you are. be happy with yourself because you are already perfect.

 

I decided to make a youtube video that you can click above ↑

You can skip through the whole beginning since I never make videos and during this one, I sure did ramble a whole lot but don’t want to re-make it! Oh well!

I’m on day 3 of my Juice Cleanse where I am mainly just drinking vegetable and fruit based juice in replacement of all solid food.

I have AMAZING energy so far. I actually have more energy now than I did before I started its pretty great. I have my story above in the video but here are a few of my juices with the ingredients I added in them:

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Juice #1 (my main morning juice)

3 stalks of celery
1 apple
2 leaves of kale
1 cup spinach
2 slices of honeydew
half a lemon

 

 

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Juice #2: (when you’re craving sweets)

1/2 cup honeydew
1/2 cup pineapple
5 strawberries
A little mint

 

 

 

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Macachino by Suja Elements:

Great coffee replacement  ingredients: purified water, organic coconut meat, organic almonds, organic coffee extract, organic cacao powder, organic black sesame, organic maca, organic vanilla bean, and organic coffee beans:)

 

 

 

 

 

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I was going to buy a bunch of green SUJA Juiceoptions for when I’m on the go but they are $9 a bottle rounding up….then I remembered Whole Foods Market has freshly made green juice for 9.99 for a half gallon.

I bought this as well as “Just Beet it” by Whole Foods which consists of carrots, beets and oranges.

 

 

 

 

this was my worst one lol....i tried to be creative and add grapefruit and beets. ICK.

this was my worst one lol….i tried to be creative and add grapefruit and beets. ICK.

I blend everything and add water with a handful of ice. i drink anytime i feel hungry. i never deprive myself.

I blend everything and add water with a handful of ice. i drink anytime i feel hungry. i never deprive myself.

 

 

 

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“Be yourself. Not because everybody else is taken, but because you’re just plain fucking awesome!”

-Rachel Brathen

 

Ahhhh this wise Rachel Brathen. I have been following this woman for the past year via Instagram and met her at her master class here in Kirkland and based on everything I’ve ever read from her, along with the presence she carries, you can tell she is a phenomenal down to earth real chick with authenticity pouring through in everything she does. She brings up a good point though…you are plain fucking awesome. We spend so much time trying to figure out who we are when all we have to do is just BE.

Where does your mind go when you are all alone? On a day off with no plans…what do you find yourself doing? Where does your heart gravitate towards? We are all very simple yet complicated human beings. We want to be more than we are, we want to fit in where we feel we belong…we want to look like our idols…but we forget how amazing we are all on our own.

Since I quit drinking almost 7 months ago, i spend a lot of time alone. I spend a lot of time with my yoga practice or running. I spend a lot of time with my family and very close friends…but i have given up trying to impress the rest of you. I have given up trying to find where I belong. I have given up the search for the best diet. I have given up trying to figure out what I should do with my entire life…I’m done looking for the fricken bow I thought I was supposed to find in order to wrap up my perfect looking life in a nice little present to show you all how to be perfect and fit.

 

Who cares. No such thing as perfection. No such thing as ANYTHING. Everyone tries too hard to be someone they are not and they stop following their heart. You are amazing and perfect just the way you are my blogger friends.

What do we do once we settle with being ourselves? Well we take what we have and we truly LIVE our life and improve it for the better. Look at your life right now and decide what’s going well…If you knew you were going to die 10 years from now, what would you do differently today?

Yoga for me if what ties everything together. I don’t see yoga as just some way to lose weight….it’s nothing like that for me at all. Yoga for me, is the fine tuning that I choose to do everyday in order to stay grounded. Yoga is love for myself, love for my life, and all people around me. Yoga teaches me that nothing is perfect and when you are living in your most difficult times, yoga teaches you to breathe through it and that life is all practice. Your yoga practice is just practice…..it’s not yoga perfect. This life you have is a life practice….it will never be perfect. You will never be perfect, and that is the beauty of living a life everyday filled with the love that we get to practice compassion and self-love every single day of our existence. We don’t need to see our life as some lofty competition.

So today, stop trying so hard. Get on your mat and practice love for this life. If you have a fitness goal in mind, think of it as a goal to treat your body as a temple. Your body should only digest fresh, organic food that helps your body grow and stay its best. Choose to really MOVE your body. Stop being so sedentary. Work as much as you need but remember to LIVE every other hour of your day. Self love is most important….and from there we build a solid foundation that allows others to find it for themselves. Remember how fucking amazing you are. Namaste.

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I’m back I’m back!!! Feels like it’s been so long! I have had a broken computer forever…I have updated a few times from my cell and iPad but nothing compares to writing on my laptop. Sometimes over the last couple weeks, I would be daydreaming about what I wanted to write about and then when I thought about it more…the thought of doing it all via phone sounded too exhausting…my thoughts move much too fast for my measly phone. Anyway I finally got off my ass and took my Mac to the Apple store and found out it was a lot easier to fix than expected…go figure.

Anyway! A lot has happened since last time I updated!  Last month I had seen Rachel Brathen for the master class and it was amazingggg. Since then I have really worked on my arm balances. I also signed up for Bryan Kest’s master class for the 18th of this month! I can’t wait to see him again, I saw him a year ago and he is fantastic!

 

Things that have happened since:

  • I turned 27!…Holy crap.
  • I turned 6 months sober.
  • I hiked.
  • I yogaaad.
  • I ran.
  • AND OUR SEAHAWKS WON THE SUPERBOWLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!

 

Let’s start with my birthday. I am officially 27…When I was a little girl, I imagined that by the age of twenty-seven, I would be married with a child, living in a house that I owned and working a 9-5 job. My life is quite the opposite and I’m learning to accept it. I officially gave up trying to control everything this year. I can’t control you, I can’t control the future, I can’t control anything other than my actions…I have my side of the street to clean and that is what I’ve committed to this year. A year of bettering one’s self to the point of beaming happiness…a commitment that allows me to be completely present and content with this moment…right here right now. No one else EVER truly cares what you do and where you are in your life. Most people are always so focused on themselves that if we actually spend time trying to be someone or do certain things just to seem impressive, just to seem “normal”….well we are setting ourselves up for failure. I have come a long way since 26 and I wouldn’t change it in any way.

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So what did I do for my birthday? Well I went to a drag show with my best girlfriends of course! Haha I have never seen a drag show and its been on my bucket list! It was heaps of fun and all COMPLETELY SOBER:)

 

 

Thats brings me to my sobriety…woohoo I made it 6 months! It actually went by really fast. It’s amazing how happy I have been since I quit. Well it was really hard at first with the transition and the whole idea of “having to actually feel everything” but once you get past your fears and your ego…there is this space. A space of freedom…and that is where I am right now. I am at a place where I have the ability to be happy in every form because I let go of holding on to the one thing holding me back…and that was my alcohol problem…Anyway it feels great and I feel a lot more healthy!

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Another thing I’ve done since my last post is hike of course…heres a picture of me at Poo Poo Point! I’m coming back here sometime soon to go paragliding! 

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Here are a couple pictures from my yoga lately:

first attempt at headstand with lotus variation

first attempt at headstand with lotus variation

Brian and my first attempt at acro yoga!

Brian and my first attempt at acro yoga!

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day of the superbowl....our hawks killed it!

day of the superbowl….our hawks killed it!

And some excellent shots from my runs:

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7 mile run along the waterfront in Seattle

7 mile run along the waterfront in Seattle

It’s crazy to see this today when a year ago, I felt this was absolutely impossible…we learn in time that we hold fear to many things that are created as more complicated then they actually are. In time, with faith and confidence, we move our impossible thoughts to possible actions….which creates growth.

“The fact is, that to do anything in the world worth doing, we must not stand back shivering and thinking of the cold and danger, but jump in and scramble through as well as we can”
-Robert Cushing

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On Wednesday I had the opportunity to take a fundamentals workshop from Rachel Brathen also known as “yoga_girl” from Instagram! It amazes me how much social media can change a persons entire life. Rachel is an incredibly sweet, down to earth person and from the moment she walked in the doors she gave me a huge smile and said hi. The energy in the studio was incredible. Everyone was so happy all packed together about an inch or two apart from each others mats. 

She started off talking a little about herself and that yoga is not just about getting upside down and doing handstands although it is fun, a lot of yoga is getting down to the fundamentals or creating a good foundation, much like life we all need a solid foundation. Without it, it’s impossible to build a strong practice…a strong life.

So class went on, we did a lot of breakdowns of poses that we often rush through, and we did a lot of partner assisting and happily, she made handstands a lot more simple. 

I got to practice next to two amazing yogis from my studio and I also met a lot of new people. Another person who was there was Stella, my lovely friend from Baptiste level 1 and that was a treat in itself.

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So. Here we are. Back to basics. Creating the foundation of our life…what does that look like? What do we fill our days with? Who do we fill our days with? What kinds of food, how much sleep, and what hobbies do we attend? Are we consumed with work? Are we in a healthy relationship and have a family we value?

We must get back to the basics. Only when we build a strong foundation can we build upon that a strong and healthy life.

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All the signs keep pointing to this constant arrow practically shouting at me to run a different direction. I have been living in fear my entire life. I choose security and emotional detachment at all costs with fear that I will be abandoned, fear that I will lose financial security, fear of the court system, or fear of loving someone and not being loved in return. I could go on…but then my entire life would be placed into that same category and immediately feel embarrassed of my sad little life.

Haha but that is just a story…all created in the mind with the ability to be changed when courage and vulnerability come into play. It’s so easy to become fully aware of my internal imprisonment but it takes time to truly change it and make it the life that I want to live. Here I am. I see it, I can change it.

Lately I’ve had this feeling in my bones to quit my job, sell my car and start backpacking and doing work exchanges. I don’t have a lot of money but I hear that it doesn’t take much and it’s mostly just our fears…my friend Kayla is doing this exact thing right now and has been giving me tips on how to get there. She has truly been an inspiration.

It won’t be for awhile because I have some legal things to take care of but trust me, when all is settled, it will be near impossible to hold back. Anyway, besides all my daydreaming, I have been reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. I’ve watched her Ted Talks but never read her books and I am so happy that I did, it’s eye opening. Since I started reading her book I have also started art journaling. Talk about therapeutic….just watercolors, old magazines and my mind fully present and here are some of the things I created yesterday:

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I’m trying to get out of my funk…as some of you know I have been a tad aloof….with low motivation because I am treading through rough times…I know once I get through it all I will be able to breathe again but I feel a little helpless these days. Since my journaling and reading I have built up some motivation. I went to yoga today and soon I’ll be off to Bassline for some cardio tonight. Here is my schedule for the week!!!:

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I also have yoga and my running club on top of this…and started a myfitnesspal account to hold myself accountable. Do any of you have it??? I like that it syncs with my Runkeeper app so if any of you do have it, add me with my email tiarefitness@gmail.com or I think my username is tiarev. Anyway it’s fun to have friends to do this with. Anyway everyone have a great night!!

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